Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Happy New Year

Well here I am only half hour to go before I say farewell to the year 2008.....

My family and I have made it through another year....

Yee haaa.....

What will 2009 bring????

Only time will tell but one thing i`m desperately hoping for is that my husband and children are healthy and happy....

That will be the best thing any mother and wife could hope for....

Happy New Year Everyone....

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

The year that was

as we prepare to say goodbye to the year 2008 I thought I would look back on the year that was....
............................................. January saw my two eldest Joshua and Krystal go on a holiday of a lifetime, visiting Queensland for a week and then Darwin for a week....It was also an opportunity for Matt, Daniel and myself to take a bit of a break away from suburbia and stay in a carvan park at Victor Harbour.....We loved the place so much that we want to retire there when the kids have left the nest...
................................................ February saw my son Joshua assulted by a kids neighbour and to this day there is still a fued going on by them....Hobbles lost his manhood, poor love now he is confused as to what he is.....lol.....Also we lost our cat Suzi to a dog which should have been restrained by it`s owner....
..................................................... March was where Daniel got himself involved with SAPASA..A huge achievenment for him as sport isn`t one of his strongest assests....He made me very proud as he did his best and was very sportman like on the day....
................................................ April was when Joshua went away with his father and he came back a very angry and disturbed boy....After getting to the bottom of it all we were able to fix the problem and start a fresh....April also saw Matt become quite ill...So much so that he had to go to his mothers for a few days just to get the peace and quiet he needed to recoup....
................................................... May saw my daughter turn sweet 16.....Still more issues with Joshua and school...LAst warnings were given to pull his socks up....
......................................................... June saw the begiining of what is now an on going issue with Daniel and disappearing for hours at a time....This was the first phone call we had to make to the police to try find him..Matt also celebrated another birthday...Every birthday is a bonus....
.................................................... July was the beginning of many tests for Matt..CT scans and hospital appointments...It was a very stressful month for us all....
.................................................... August we celebrated Daniels 11th Birthday.....Now i`m starting to feel my age...lol..This also was the month that Krystal came down with this mystery illness....Another stressful month.... September there were many hospital visits for both Krystal and Matt....By this stage I didn`t know whether I was coming or going.....There was some fun to be had in this month for the kids as it was the Royal show.....But as we know with fun there is always a downside.....This was the month that we lost our little nephew Callum in a tragic accident.....Also where his sister Chelsea was severely injured.....A very difficult and devasting month,.....
......................................................... October was a blur of a month.....2 funerals in two weeks having lost Callum and also an Aunty who lost her battle with Cancer....This was also my birthday which wasn`t much for a celebration this year....
........................................................ November saw for a busy month with school excursions for the kids....Then there was the little incident of Daniel and his burns...Also lots of strikes by the teachers at school....
....................................................... And finally we arrive at December....Shopping, lots of it....A holiday for Matt, myself and Daniel to KI...Then school breakups..More doctors appointments and Christmas Day....
............................................... 2008 has certainly had some highs but so too it`s lows....As I write this blog young Chelsea is still in hosiptal with her mother having not left her little girls side....There are signs of recovery but to what extent is still anyones guess....Everyday we pray that she will pull through and be that happy, energetic vibrant little girl she once was....
................................................ 2009 I wish for good health to everyone especially for those people who are suffering from illnesses......Whatever the year will bring I know that there will be laughter and hopefully not too many tears....
.......................................................... From my family to yours I would like to wish everyone a Happy New year....
Thank you for your friendship and support over the year, it has meant a lot to me....

Saturday, December 27, 2008

A few happy snaps of Christmas Day

A few happy snaps of our Xmas Day....
My darling daughter and myself....
Geez I look brown compared to her...lol
My gorgeous boy who will always be the clown of the family....
He knows how to liven up a party....
The tribe all feasting away on Xmas tea....
Our family is slowly growing....

I truly treasure my family....They mean the world to me and I am ever so greatful that even though they can drive me nuts, and I probably drive them crazy, they love me unconditionally and vice versa.....

Friday, December 26, 2008

Happy Boxing Day

Another Christmas comes and goes which means another year that my poor husband is disappointed with his own children....The 3 of them made no effort to get in contact with him for the day nor have they replied to him about coming here for lunch today....He is so terribly upset....Yesterday as we were only around the corner from one of his daughters place, we decided to drop all the grandkids presents there...I sent a text message to all of them and still haven`t heard a thing....
I hate seeing my hubby so upset because of his girls, it breaks my heart and then the anger sets in but I try my hardest to bite my tongue....Hard for me to do but I do it under duress for my hubbies sake....
Then my middle son Joshua drops a bombshell on me Christmas Eve saying that he will be going away with his father on Christmas night for two weeks....I wasn`t upset because he was going away, I was upset because I had organised a family get together this night....
Well you can imagine my frustration and I stormed out of the house in tears.....I`m very sentimental when it comes to Christmas Day .....
My daughter followed me out the house and she calmed me down....My son rang his father and told him he would have to make it today....So everything worked out in the end....
An overall summary of the day, it was enjoyable...Beautifully cooked lunch made by Matts brother, home to a nice tea and a few relaxing drinks...
Now to get ready for the big shopping spree which starts at 12:01am tomorrow or tonight....lol
Then and maybe then I can actually start to relax and enjoy the school holidays with my youngest son......
Happy Boxing Day everyone.....

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Home safe

Here we are already on the eve of Christmas eve....Where has the time gone???? As you can see we arrived home safe and well...My excellent driving skills of course.... I had worked myself up so much on the journey over there that I nearly barfed on the ferry.....Would not have lived that one down...A quick exit to the top deck for some fresh air and I was fine.... It`s been many years since I have been on the sea and had forgotten that feeling.... Kangaroo Island is such a beautiful place, I fell in love with it...The people are lovely and so friendly...I was in my element chatting away to anyone and everyone....A nice place to visit but I wouldn`t live there...Not for another 20 years or so...Too quiet and not enough shops for my liking... Where we stayed the owners were new themselves...They made the sea change from Melbourne 3 months ago and are loving it there....Daniel made friends with their son and were inseperable for the whole time....They have swapped email addresses and will keep in contact....The son didn`t want us to leave.... I went camera mad but haven`t had a chance to up load the pictures yet...Hopefully I`ll get a chance later tonight... Unfortunately I didn`t get to see half of what I wanted too...As you know we took Matt`s 82 year old mother and it was a struggle for her to get around freely....So it looks like we`ll have to organise another time for us to go back....She did have a relaxing time though and this will probably be her last holiday she goes on.... Daniel and I went to Seal Bay and it was incredible....To see nature at it`s best I was just in aww about it....Everywhere you travelled on the island there were different animals to see....The people who live on the island are truly blessed to have such beauty on their doorstep... Now we are back in the rat race.....The house is still standing and by the looks of things nothing is broken....The house was tidy (kid tidy) not mine...lol....So now we have to take Matt`s mother home and then food shop...Joshua has eaten absolutely everything in the fridge and freezer.... I have two boys who will be going on diets after Christmas....They both need to lose at least 15 kilo`s each.... Oh and yes they apparently did miss me...Krystal rang me every single day whilst away and Joshua now knows how much I do around this place....Still yet to have this big talk with both my kids which will probably take place over the next few days....I did a lot of soul searching as I had plenty of time to think.....

I have read your responses to my previous post and taken on board what you have said... They have a different mother home now .....

Lastly I would like to take this opportunity to wish everyone a Very Merry Christmas....Enjoy the holiday season with your family and friends....

Thursday, December 18, 2008

I can`t sleep

I know....I told you my last blog was going to be it until I got back....lol
This post is also on my other one but as some of you don`t go there i`ve written it here because I would really like everyones thoughts on a matter that has arisen...Here we go!!!!!
I can`t sleep, I want too but I have so much going through this head of mine... Plus I am in pain so here I find myself blogging.. My two eldest kids have been treating me like crap these past few days.... They have made me feel guilty for going away on holidays and especially because I am taking Daniel.... How short their memories are when only last year their father took them on a two week holday to Queensland and Darwin and not once did Daniel or anyone else say a thing... Bit oh no as soon as I want to go somewhere all hell breaks loose..... I`ve been in tears because of the way they have both treated me and to be honest I`m really not feeling much in a holiday mood.... To top things off I have given them each $150 to spend on whatever they want....Some of the money given from the government....As most of you know I am on carers for my hubby so we don`t have the luxuaries of being big spenders...Essentials in life come first and always have with me....I`m a big believer of food on the table, a roof over your head and the bills paid....Anything other than that is a bonus..... Well Joshua being the way he is has totally trashed his room including his mattress...It is ripped to shreds, totally destroyed ...I said to him by rights I should be buying him a new mattress with the $150 and whats left over he can get his new shoes....A $30 pair like everybody else in this world ....You see he doesn`t just want any old shoes, they have to be NIKE which conveniently cost $150.... His comment back to me was if I didn`t spend all that money on the holiday I could buy him the mattress plus his Nike shoes.... Little do they realise but Matt and myself have saved our own money for this holiday....It was money we had saved for Matt`s eldest daughters wedding but you know the story with that and why we couldn`t go.... This sort of comment plus others that have been going on for the last few days has deeply hurt me and i`m not sure as to what sort of kids I am raising now....I am truly having alot of doubts about them... I get the impression if it`s not about them then stuff everyone else....I am feeling used and most of all abused....I`m so tired and run down and i`m about ready to break.... I would really like to know your thoughts on a question i`m about to propose to you....I have my own thoughts on the matter but I would like to see how other people feel about this..... At what age do you think appropriate (if at all) that your son or daughters b/f g/f be able to stay over for the night in your home????? I`d be very interested to see some of your answers and be honest....As I said I have my own views on the matter and am curious to see whether I am close to what majority would do or say in a situation like this.... Ok so now i`m feeling a bit better for getting this off my chest....Now I know why I blog....

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Baby 7 and it`s a boy

This will be my last entry before leaving tomorrow morning so i`ll make it a quick one...
Matt`s daughter did finally have her baby late yesterday delivered by "C" section as the baby`s head wasn`t engaging....
She is fine and baby Jordan is doing fine....
7lb something????
What a wonderful gift to have just before Christmas...
HAve a terrific week everyone and I will hopefully have lots to show and tell when I arrive back home....
Thanks for all your well wishes....

Monday, December 15, 2008

I can`t believe it`s happening

I don`t believe it....
Everything has finally fallen into place today so now I can officially say Thursday we are off to Kangaroo Island....
I`m excited...lol
Everything is paid for, booked, signed ,sealed and not quite delivered...
Back to the travel agents in the morning to pick up the tickets for the ferry....
I must say the lady at Harvey World Travel was an absolute gem...
She bent over backwards to make sure everything will go smoothly for us....
If I ever want to go anywhere else again I`ll defintely be going through them....
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Also got the new tyres for the car, fitted and wheel aligned so the car is now safe....
Now the hard part...
What to take?????
Not easy when being a female....
Decisions , decisions.....
lol

Sunday, December 14, 2008

A lot to get done in the next few days

It`s my boys birthday tomorrow...15 years old already...Geez i`m feeling old now....
I say it every year with my kids...It only feels like last year that they were babies....
Not sure what plans he has but i`m sure he will think of something....
It also means that with his birthday tomorrow there is only 10 days to Christmas...Scared yet???...lol
My daughter has her own plans whilst we are away....Painting and redecorating her bedroom....She has gone out and bought the paint and other neccessary items to have the job done.....Knowing missy she`ll have the boys, being her brother and boyfriend at her beck and call so the job can be completed before I arrive home....
Well we`ll be at the travel agents tomorrow morning paying for our trip and so Thursday should be our departure day....I`m a little scared to be honest...I`ve been having awful nightmares about the ferry sinking on us....Stupid I know but even when I go out in our own boat I have some horrific nightmares.....Very gruesome.....Just an over active imagination...That`s what I keep telling myself...lol
I have a lot to get organised in the next 3 days and the major one will be writing a list of the do`s , don`ts and have too`s....They`ll soon see what mother does on a daily basis.....

Saturday, December 13, 2008

They say it`s the thought that counts ?????

I arrived home after a long day of driving in torrential weather to find a new addition to the family.....
Putting it honestly I wasn`t too impressed......It is a present for Joshua from his girlfriend.....Daniel automatically fell in love with the new feline but i still have reservations about it all.....I really didn`t want to have another cat....Ours has been missing for about 3 months now (male) so there could be a slight possibility of him coming home.....
This one to make matters worse is it`s female.....

I`ve asked my son how does he intend to maintain it as he has no job to buy it`s food ect ect.....Then there is the matter of getting it desexed as there is no way I want baby kittens running all over the place....Kids, honestly they just don`t think about the bigger picture.....

It is cute though and it was trying to worm its way into my good books last night by sitting on my lap.....I`m such a sucker when it comes to animals....lol

Thursday, December 11, 2008

The week is flying

I`m sitting here reaking of hair dye at the moment....It`s only been waiting here for me to do for over a week.....Never enough hours in the day of late .....So seeing as I have to wait for a half hour it was perfect opportunity for a catch up here....
Absolute bedlam at the shopping centre today.....And some rather impatient shoppers to say the least....Tempers were flaring and I must admit I did lose my cool today but at the wrong person....My hubby.....I apologised profusely but it didn`t make me feel any better....
I did purchase a digital camera today and quite happy with the price...$99 for an 8.2 megapixel 3 x optical zoom and a couple of other features....Plus it`s pink....Hubby laughed at me and asked why pink???....Silly question really!!!!
So now there will be happy snaps everywhere....Picked up the last of the layby`s today so thankfully no more shopping.....It was bad enough trying to do food shopping tonight....
Daniel is an angel when he wants to be....At the supermarket there is a lady who gives samples of new foods out on the market to the shoppers within the store...Well he has befriended her and every week without fail Daniel will be standing by her side giving her a helping hand...Plus sampling the food himself....lol
Today he asked me if I could give him $4 so that he could buy the lady a flower for Christmas....I gave him the money and like he said he would, went and bought her a marigold plant.....
She was at a loss......When I came to collect Daniel she asked me if it was alright that he did this....Naturally I said it was and she thanked him ever so much.....
So I know he does have a good heart and intentions...He just needs to get them in order.....He did make me proud though.....

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

A day I would rather forget

A bad, bad day and it didn`t end until 10pm tonight....
After I got Daniel off to school my mobile phone rings...
It`s hubby letting me know Josh`s g/f arrived on our door step unannounced....
Rule number one in this house is that no one is allowed in the house when i`m not home.....
So I ring the boy and remind him of Rule number 1 and that she needs to go home....
Then I get to the bank and my money hasn`t gone in....
Just wonderful.....
So I took out what I had and got a few important things done like new shoes for Daniel and a couple of other things....
Mainly got window shopping done so that come tomorrow i`ll go straight to where I need to and hopefully get the job done quickly....
Arrive home only to find g/f was still there.....
Grrrrrrrrrrrr
Big talk with son tonight....
Then to top my day off Daniel decided to sneak out from the backyard and go walkabouts AGAIN....
Found out where he was by ringing around and he was told to get his little backside home as it was 8pm......
Well he chose not too.....
Bad choice by his part....
When he eventually did get home after we drove the streets yet again he copped it big time....
His father this time actually smacked him and grounded him....
2 weeks of not going anywhere or seeing anyone and no swimming pool...
His favourite all time thing he likes to do.....
It was the last straw with the smacking .....
My husband has never done it as he is the softie out of us two but Daniel isn`t listening to reasoning anymore.....
The worst part is because of hubbies health he now has suffered a seizure.
A bad one too.....
I am really lost as to what to do with this child of ours....

Monday, December 8, 2008

Wedding pictures of the happy couple

Finally we have some photo`s of Matt`s daughters wedding day.....

The bridal party arriving

The boys waiting patiently....

The blushing bride herself....

The little bridesmaid at the front is Matt`s eldest grand daughter and the bridesmaid 3rd from the right is his middle daughter....

Friday, December 5, 2008

Time to put the roller blades on and fly like the wind

This week has been so hetic and somehow I don`t think it`s going to slow down any time quick.....
The two eldest kids have finished the school term and just one more to go....
Will that mean sleep ins????
Somehow I`m finding the possibilty of that happening is nothing but a pipe dream...lol
I`ve done a fair bit of shopping this past week but it will be nothing compared to the week coming up.....
New tyres for the car in readiness for our trip the following week...
As long as everything goes according to plan....
I have my eldest boys birthday coming up also....I can`t believe he`ll be turning 15....
Also there will be the arrival of number 7 grandchild....
And finally last minute shopping for anyone I have forgotten to buy for....
Believe me there is always one that you miss....
So looks like the days ahead will all be blending into one....
Ah the joys of Christmas, don`t you just love it....
lol....
Now to find those roller blades.....

Sunday, November 30, 2008

trying to cope with a defiant child

I`ve been given a book to read by my son`s councellor....

Your defiant child 8 steps to better behavior...

Am i ever so hoping that it will help me to cope with what has been a terrible few days...

It comes in waves and when he is having a bad day everyone in the family suffers...

I`ve been told it`s like having a two year old but with more force....

And it`s true...

If he can`t have his own way the so called tantrums kick in ...

The swearing and constant refusual to do anything that is asked of him...

A daily struggle within the family home...

Apparently this is more prolific in boys...

And I just happened to be one of the lucky ones who inherited this problem...

It`s tiring having to deal with my son when it`s constantly a battle...

And then you have the self doubts but this book so far has assured me i`m not alone and there is a way to fix it...

Boy I hope so!!!!!

Saturday, November 29, 2008

More than happy with their accomplishments

It`s official...My daughter has passed Year 11 even though she had to struggle through illness to do so....

She has had a tough year with her health and a tougher year to try and catch up with school work she had missed.....

So now the fun year is yet to come....And already i`m up for a small fortune....Books that are compulsary for the year and they expect payment just before Christmas....Wonderful!!!!!

Two more weeks for the boys until they finish the school year and they have both excelled themselves after last years effort....

I`ll have to think of a special treat for them all as they have done so well with all the challenges we have had as a family this year....

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Experimenting

I`ve been experimenting with the Windows movie maker of late.... Trying to get those creative juices flowing... Krystal helped as they did a course in year 10 at school on how to use it.... Here is the end result.... video

Monday, November 24, 2008

Teens, will they ever listen

Last night I knew my kids were up to something no good....
Every time I walked into the room it would go quiet and they wouldn`t look at me....
Next minute my daughter says to my teenage son "you had better tell mum"....
Well naturally a mother is going to think the worst when hearing those sorts of words....
"Mum promise you won`t get mad at me" he says.....
"I`m not promising anything until I hear what you have to tell me"
I have to cover all basis here...lol....
He poked out his tongue at me and then I hit the roof....
He went and got his tongue pierced after I had specifically told him no piercings until he is at least 16 years of age....
I was so angry at him for disobeying me...
And more pissed off because of who had done it...
His girlfriends uncle owns a tattoo and piercing parlour....Biker related.....
So now little old me can`t go down there and abuse them, I don`t fancy being on a death wish....
My son has seen my wrath especially last night....My daughter told him "I told you so" and my husband is just shaking his head....He reckons he might go get his you know what peirced...lol...Just being funny of course.....
I have stipulated to my son, any more facial piercings while he is living under this roof and I will pull them out myself....
If he dares come home with a tattoo I will sandpaper his skin until it disappears....
And he knows I`m deadly serious.....
At the moment he is treading very quietly with me as to not make a wrong move....

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Picked up a great bargain

Looks like i`m on a roll, two posts in a week.....
I must be bored...lol
Last week I picked myself up a great bargain...
I`m forever looking for just that right thing to go into my garden...
I have so many statues and I wanted something totally out of the ordinary...
But I didn`t want to pay a fortune for it....
I was at the right place at the right time by the looks of things...
Now the original price was $49.99...
Way too much for this mother who tries to stick to a budget....
I nearly fell over backwards when I saw how much it had been reduced too...
$5...
Yep...
Couldn`t get it into my trolley quick enough....lol
It now sits proudly above my fish pond....

Saturday, November 22, 2008

The week that was

I thought it was about time for a change on here...
Brighten it up a bit....
I`ve still got a bit to do but I think it`s starting to take shape...
Now for the week that was....
Son , youngest one learnt why we his parents say not to play with fire...
Burnt himself quite severly in places you don`t even want to go...
We are on daily dressing changes at the doctors and all I can say is he is one lucky boy.....
Scared the absolute crap out of him not to mention myself and husband....
We have had some rather unusual weather also....
One minute rain, the next sun is out...
Any wonder the other two kids have come down with a severe cold...
All the kids have been off school this week so basically I haven`t had much time to
myself....
I`m counting down the weeks until hubby , myself and youngest son can get away on a decent holiday....
It seems like forever that we have been anywhere....
Hubby`s health puts a stop to a lot of things we can do but i`m adamant about this holiday....

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

It`s been a while

Well it has been a while since i`ve been here....
So much has happened and so much is about to happen....
A very busy time over the next few weeks....
Hubby`s daughter is due to be married in less than 10 days...
He can`t stop thinking about it as it`s his first daughter to be tying the knot...
Upsetting for him too...
As he can`t go to the wedding...
It`s being held over on Hamilton Island and due to his poor health flying that far from South Australia just isn`t an option for him....
I have suggested that he write a letter of some description and give it to one of his daughters so it can be read out at the reception....
I know he has been thinking about it so now it`s up to him whether he chooses too or not...
Hubby is to become a grandfather yet again in early December...
This will make grand baby number 7....
Another boy....
So now there will be 4 boys and 3 girls...
The family is certainly extending....

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Bloody Telco companies

As if I don`t have enough worries on my plate, now the Telco giant here has given me something else to stress over....
I received my monthly statement for internet service the other day and for the life of me I couldn`t work out why I had been billed for two internet services.
Soon found out that I had been given a new email addy unbeknown to me....I was told when applying for the new contract that I was able to keep my old email as it was with the same company....That`s the first lie....
Then I was offered a 24 month contract (first month free and half price for the entirety of the contract)....That was the second lie.....
Then to be told it was up to me to cancel the original internet service was all too much for this brain to comprehend.....
Shit you would think that naturally the first one would be cancelled if you are applying for a new contract with the same company....Wouldn`t you??????
Now i`m stuck in a contract that I didn`t agree too.....
That`s how they make their money....Bastards.....I only changed the contract to save money, not spend more of it.....
So having done all of this I had to have one deleted, naturally.....Who in their right mind can afford two internet services, which are crap anyway.....
So my Telstra bigblog had to be deleted and a new one born.....
This is my new url for those of you who are interested.....http://cinderella1.bigblog.com.au
Now to see if I can do anything about the mess that has been created through no fault of my own, but the big telco sure does make you feel like you are the one in the wrong....And you`re left to pay the bill.....

Saturday, August 23, 2008

How people can dictate

It`s all getting to be rather frustrating with Matt at the moment....Even his doctor is ....You see he is supposed to be going into hospital to have an operation and exploratory surgery to see what`s causing the blockage and bleeding of the bowel....
Letters have been sent off and he is supposedly on the waiting list but as his is rather urgent he has been placed at the top....
Well we have just found out that the clerical staff at the hospital have been on strike....For how long i`m not sure but all letters that have been going into the hospital are conveniently being lost.....Then there are the letters that are supposedly to be coming out of the hospital are not.....
I`m furious, the doctor is furious and the doctors are frustrated because they have spaces vacant for patients to be admitted.....
Don`t they realise they are playing with people`s lives here?????
So more blood was taken and yet more letters (stated emergency) were faxed.....I wonder how long it will take this time.????

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

The time has come

It`s been a crazy couple of weeks having to deal with teens emotions....
What doesn`t help is the web of lies being created by this child of mine and getting ex out laws involved whom seem to undermine my authority over my own child...Last time I remembered I was the one who gave birth to him and I am his mother , not her.....
I`m getting rather frustrated at this ex out law and yes it`s a female...Isn`t it always.....
What makes it even more frustrating is she is believing every single word coming out of my childs mouth(and this child has had plenty of practice lying over the years and getting away with it)....grrrrr
Then to make matters worse she and my son have basically ganged up and blamed my youngest son (half brother) to the child involved, he gets everything and is treated better and blah blah blah....
Little does the out law know of how much debt we went into because he arrived at our home with the clothes on his back.....Nothing else....We basically had to start from scratch and in the year and a half that we have had him here he has a damn sight more than what he has ever had when he was living with his father....
To make matters worse the father has never paid a days maintenance....
So I let rip.....My youngest had sacrificed a hell of a lot to make him feel welcomed into this house....He gave up his room, he goes out of his way to make things right and bends over backwards to do anything for him....And for what??????...To hear that he hates his guts and will never accept that he is a brother......
Well personally I have had enough of this treatment towards my youngest especially by an ex out law who has nothing to do with my child, and by a spoilt brat who thinks he should have everything handed to him on a silver platter.....
The sun shines out of the other ones ass in her eyes and now she has to face reality that her golden grandson isn`t that golden.....She needs to keep her nose out of my family affairs and I will raise MY children how I see fit.....
And as for my son who has created this problem, well he has a rude awakening coming to him....For the past year and a half he has treated this house and his family with total disrespect......Well now he is about to see the not so tolerant mother whom he has been pushing around....
He now knows that there is no where else for him to fall back on when it comes to living arrangements...His father doesn`t want him living with him and there is no way in hell that his grandmother will ever have him....
This is one thing his father and I are in agreeance with.....
So let the games begin.....

Thursday, July 31, 2008

Obviously still too early to let go

I`m up before the birds this morning as I can`t sleep...This "thing" in my ear drove me absolutely bananas last night....I kept Matt awake as well.....So definitely off to the doctors.... As for Daniel and his bike riding, here we were thinking everything was going along nicely but it wasn`t at all.... You see he didn`t come home straight away from school like he is supposed too.....By the time 5;30 arrived the panic started to kick in.... I don`t know what or why I rang the school but I did....Luckily Daniel`s teacher still happened to be there and I asked her if Daniel had gone to school that day.... Turns out he hadn`t and to make matters worse he didn`t attend yesterday either..... OMG!!!!! Now I was definitely worried.... I went around to this kids place that he rides to school with of a morning.....The step father after 5 minutes of standing at the door decides to answer it....He hadn`t seen Daniel (supposedly) that day.....So straight home on the phone to the police to put out a missing persons report "AGAIN".... He rocked up home half an hour later and did Matt and myself let rip, because naturally we were worried sick as only on the weekend we had a little girl around the corner nearly abducted..... We drilled him as to where he had been all day today and yesterday..... What makes me so furious is that he went to this young lads home and stayed there for the day....Now if that was Daniel`s friend and he came to our place on a school day I would be telling them to either get to school or go home.....But no, not these dicks, they let him stay there and not inform us of what has been going on ..... Then we find out yesterday he spent the day at this boy`s sister`s house.....God knows what they did there but today we will be finding out...I just can`t believe these sorts of people...Don`t they have brains....They can see the kid is in his school uniform which to me would indicate he is supposed to be at school..... Then we find out that the boy`s parents are smoking dope in front of Daniel.....What`s next shooting a needle up the arm????? These people may raise their children how they see fit but when it comes to my child or anyone else`s for that fact they should show some responsibility..... So today we will be speaking with the school and letting them know of the past events...I`ve asked that Daniel be punished for wagging school as now he has two days of work to catch up on..... In the meantime he will also be punished at home.... He has to learn that for every action there is a reaction.....

Monday, July 28, 2008

God.com

Every single eveningAs I'm lying here in bed,This tiny little PrayerKeeps running through my head:God bless all my familyWherever they may be,Keep them warm and safe from harmFor they're so close to me. And God, there is one more thingI wish that you could do;Hope you don't mind me asking,Please bless my computer too. Now I know that it's unusualTo Bless a motherboard,But listen just a secondWhile I explain it to you, Lord. You see, that little metal boxHolds more than odds and ends;Inside those small compartmentsRest so many of my friends. I know so much about themBy the kindness that they give,And this little scrap of metalTakes me in to where they live. By faith is how I know themMuch the same as you.We share in what life brings usAnd from that our friendships grew. Please take an extra minuteFrom your duties up above,To bless those in my address bookThat's filled with so much love. Wherever else this prayer may reachTo each and every friend,Bless each e-mail inboxAnd each person who hits 'send'. When you update your Heavenly listOn your own Great CD-ROM,Bless everyone who says this prayerSent up to GOD.com Amen.

Saturday, July 26, 2008

100 years young

It seems everyone in our family is having birthdays...Usually from May through to August....Matt`s grand daughter turns 3 tomorrow then we have 4 bithdays in August.... My great grandmother turns 100 in 2 weeks time....A very special birthday indeed....We have 5 generations of female first born in the family.....It consists of my great grandmother, her daughter(my nana), my mother, then comes me and then last but not least Krystal (my daughter).....Girls do dominate in our family..... I haven`t seen her in sometime now as she used to live in Melbourne but has recently packed up everything and come to live here in SA.... It was a big move and everyone was worried that it might do her more harm than good but she is a tough old bugga....She bought a lovely little cottage house on the river and she is thriving....Gets out and about in her front garden....I hope i`m as healthy and fit as she is if I ever get to her age.... There is going to be a big party for her but i`m unsure if we`ll be able to make it because Matt could be in hospital around about that time....But i`m sure she will understand.... It`s quiet on the home front today....Just Daniel and hubby home and they are both having an afternoon nap....I`ve just finished doing the housework so I think i`ll sit down and watch the footy...It was a good game to watch between the Cats and Hawks last night....A bit of a thriller and the Hawks certainly gave the Cats a run for their money....I still reckon they`ll be hard to beat this year....

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Where`s the valium?

And the bickering continues amongst the darlings....
NEED I SAY ANYMORE!!!!!

Saturday, July 12, 2008

Our newest addition to the family

We finally had some very happy news this morning....Matt`s daughter gave birth to a very healthy boy, Riley Matthew, weighing in at 10lb 11oz....Just a wee bub...lol..... Pop was over the moon hearing of the birth but was in shock after hearing his weight....She has two other children and they were both big babies but nothing compared to this one.... She has declared there will be no more and i`m not the least bit surprised after the size of this boy.... An all natural birth with only a little gas to get her through....Pop reckons he would have been calling for any drug he could get his hands on....hahaha I held him and my god, my arms were aching after 10 minutes...I said she`ll have to go to a gym to build up her upper body muscles...lol... He was very quiet the few hours we were there but very inquisitive of what was going on around him....

Saturday, June 28, 2008

It`s been one hell of a week

You could say life has been somewhat a little stressful over this past week...
Joshua has an anger management problem and is now going to get some help to deal with these issues...
Hubby is the sickest I have seen him in quite sometime...
He had an ultra sound done yesterday...He has had severe bowel trouble which consists of bleeding, badly....
From what he was told he has 3 growths on the small and large bowel which obviously is causing the trouble...
What it is yet we won`t find out until Monday afternoon...
Either way it looks as though an operation will be taking place...
I just pray that it is good news as it`s his birthday on Monday and I don`t think he can handle anything being bad...
As for me , well i`m fighting fit and trying my best to stay positive...
It`s all I can do....Deep down I feel frustrated because I feel helpless...
All I want is for my family to be happy and healthy...
I hope I can get them to that place...

Friday, June 20, 2008

It`s no picnic like he thought it would be

I can be an evil nasty mother when I want to be.... Revenge is sweet and i`ll teach him to be suspended from school.... He`ll wish he was back at school by the time I have finished with him......
More jobs are being created, especially those annoying ones....
He annoyed me so I feel it`s my duty as a mother to return the favour...
lol.....

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

I try to give my youngest who is nearly 11 some freedom on weekends but somehow it`s always me and his father who comes off worse for it.... He went to some friends house yesterday after me stipulating that he wasn`t to go....You see hubby and I did end up doing some work out in the yard after saying it was going to be a lazy day.... So whilst we were busy doing what we were doing he was out galavanting and having a good time.... Now usually he`ll be at home by 6pm latest....6:30 rolls on and he still wasn`t home so Matt and myself went to where he was supposed to be.... He wasn`t there and the friend he was with also wasn`t home....The difference is these parents of this kid allow their children to be out of a night...I don`t..... Especially when it`s school the next day.... I like to stick to a strict routine and plus I was worried sick.... 7:30 pm comes and i am frantic....Enough so that I called the police and put out a missing persons report... Matt was furious by this time as we had no idea where he could be..... After many phone calls and talking with the police I get a phone call at 8:30 pm from my son.... He was back at the house where he should have been in the first place..... Matt went around and picked him up and he did arrive home in one piece after Matt had ear bashed him.... His excuse was that his bike got a flat tyre and he had to walk.... I was so angry at him as only just this weekend there was an incident where an elderly man had tried to get a 12 year old boy into his car... Daniel just has no fear of anyone or anything... Needless to say he is grounded again, no playstation and he won`t be going anywhere any time soon.... I have just put a bike on layby for him for his birthday which is coming up in a couple of months time but with what has happened this weekend I told him he won`t be getting it... Not until he can prove to me that he can be responsible for his actions.... I`ve never felt so ill.... At this rate he will be the death of me.... Bloody kid!!!!! Little does he realise how much we worry.... But in the end all that matters is he is home and ok....

Thursday, June 5, 2008

Sometimes it`s more than I can handle

Second time round marriages can be difficult at the best of times especially when you`re dealing with ex`s and kids.... My hubby has always treated me with the upt most respect and he expects everyone else to do the same... Last night all hell broke loose as teenage son back answered one too many times to me and Matt finally chastised him....He had had enough of the way my son speaks to me.... Usually Matt will be in the back ground and let me try to deal with issues that come up about my kids....Not last night.... I let Matt go as it was about time he did take on the roll of Step Dad.....By that I mean he is here day and night for these kids...More so than what their biological father is....They are lucky to see him a couple of times throughout the year, so I feel he has a right to say his piece in the way the kids are behaving.... All houses have rules and it doesn`t kill someone to have a little respect and manners....I`ve always been, treat those as you would want to be treated..... Well son didn`t like the extra attention did he....Didn`t like the fact that a male told him off for being down right rude.....Plus I think it was a shock because Matt has very rarely stepped in on my behalf....Sticking up for me... After he had his tantrum of punching the crap out of his stereo which we bought him for Christmas this year ( and broke it at the same time) he comes out and says to me that Matt has nothing to do with our conversations and tell him to stop trying to be my father..... I saw red..... This has never been Matt`s intention (to be the father)....He has always stipulated to the kids that you only have one father so you can look at me as being your friend.... I Gave him the low down and basically said that Matt has been more of a father to him and only cares for his well being....That he is lucky to have someone who cares about him and takes an interest in what he is doing..... Blah blah blah...... I`m afraid my son has an awful lot of growing up to do....He tries to act the big tough man in front of his friends but can`t deal with real life issues.... Then he tells me if Matt does it again he will leave..... What is it with kids these days????? Always the leave act!!!!!! I left it with him that he has shown to me that he has NO RESPECT or love for me or anyone else in this family..... Everything has to be about HIM and only HIM.... Just like his father!!!!!! I stormed off to bed and let him stew on what I had said... Shit all I`m asking for is to be treated like a mother.... Not one of his goony little friends in the school yard.... Honestly is that too much to ask for????

Monday, June 2, 2008

Quite a good week

Good afternoon all....
ell it has been a relativly good week gone by...
Not too many dramas which is a good thing...
Daniel has suddenly come down with Mondayitis....
H was beside himself this morning, crying and sobbing as he had a sore throat...lol....
He caught me at a weak moment...
Krystal has a new love in her life....It`s been sometime between boyfriends for her....
He seems lovely and always very polite....
Hubby has decided to take the plunge and gone in head first ....
BLOGGING!!!!!
Yes a shock I know but hopefully it will give him a interest and i`ll be able to find out his deepest darkest secrets...LMAO....
anyway here is his link for those of you who are interested...

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Being guinea pigs

I`ve felt like one of these withces this past week, concocting all sorts of potions and brews...
You see my darling daughter felt as she doesn`t it enough meat, she may as well cut it all out and turn VEGAN....
Wonderful....
I don`t know the first thing about vegetarian cooking....
I asked her to find a heap of recipes for me from the net which she did without hesitation...
Then it was time to hit the shops to get what was needed...
My god
How expensive is it
It`s a nightmare some of the prices....
I think we`ll be starting out slowly...
Anyway i`ve cooked up a couple of meals for her and did some for the rest of the family...
Day 1 went down ok...
Made some vegie patties and everyone thought they were nice...
Naturally the boys had meat on the side...lol...
Fried rice the following night...
My kids love fried rice and they didn`t miss the meat...
Lastnights effort was a disaster...
Hubby says the patties tasted like sawdust...
My youngest covered his in tomato sauce
and my other son , well he ate them without too much conversation but then went for the leftovers from the other night which was
MEAT!!!!!....lol
I think daughter will be going it alone for the majority of meals...
The men in this house like their meat too much....
Certainly has been interesting and funny...
Mainly to watch the looks on their faces when it comes to trying something new....
Absolutely priceless.....

Monday, May 26, 2008

A good whinge helps soothe the soul

Can you believe it, Monday again....
Back to the same old routine for the week....
The months are just flying by ....
It was a busy week just gone with Daniel having Sports Day ....
Just love going to them...lol....
Also Daniel had a rather traumatic time at the dentist...
He had a baby tooth extracted as it was rotting....It broke into 5 peices and after the pulling and digging he vowed he would brush his teeth every single day from now on as he never wanted to go through that process again....
I don`t blame hi either....
I was in the chair next to him and my stomach was churning feeling every single bit of his pain....
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I had a good talk with my ex in laws the other night.....They needed to know some home truths about their eldest son...My ex.....
He is destroying these kids mental health, especially my sons....
They totally agree with what I had to say and I know them well...They will give him a good talking too...
Not that he`ll listen but he needs to know how much he is hurting them...
He still hasn`t bothered to come see my daughter for her birthday, which was at the beginning of this month...It hurts her and she feels she`s not loved by him....
He rang here the other night and all he wanted was to talk to my son....
Wanted him to stay over with him on the weekend but my son has now seen the after effects of binge drinking and doesn`t want any part of it....
As long as he has his alcohol and drugs these kids will always come second....
My son told him politely he had other arrangements made for the weekend.....Not my doing , he did this on his own back....
My son actually said to me the less I have to see him and hear from him the less I have to worry about him.....
These kids live with the fear of knowing sooner rather than later that they will be dealing with a funeral....
His....
So sad to think like that of one of your parents....These kids have had a lot to deal with already in their young lives....And an awful lot of childhood memories are now starting to surface....
What hurts me the most is that I had welfare called in on him several times and the mongrel got away with what I had claimed...
The system certainly let my kids down....
This is probably why I try to do so much for my kids as they only have one parent and friend who does give a shit about what happens in their life.....

Thursday, May 22, 2008

I think i`m winning...

It Happened....Another phone call from yet another teacher about being rude in class and not doing homework as well as not doing detention....
I`m getting to the stage where i`m not knowing what to say to the teachers anymore....What can I say????
He went 3 days of not doing his detention and if he chose not to do it on Monday night after school then they were going to take drastic measures and suspend him.....
I wasn`t having any of that....I thought to myself why should he benefit....Staying home just to annoy me even more...uh uh!!!!
Not happening....
So what to do, how to tackle this one....
After a strong cup of coffee I decided that this was the only way he would co operate....
I sent him a sms
Don`t do the detention then it`s a new school which means no more seeing the girlfriend....
You choose....
Guess he took me seriously as he did the detention...lol....
I love using the girlfriend card.
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As for my girl, she had the scan done yesterday and looks like everything is ok....
It seems like it`s a glandular lump but we`ll know more today after going back to the doctors....
Even though she tried to show she was alright I know she was worried.....
You just never know with lumps.....