Monday, June 8, 2009

Letting go

Lifes been just dandy this week she says sarcastically....
Teenage son decided to waltz in home a week after his disappearance like nothing had happened....
I asked him what he thinks he is doing and naturally he came back with a smart remark....
The chip on his shoulder at the moment is more like a boulder and I can`t have someone who chooses to ignore house rules and have total disrespect for me live under the same roof...
So I gave him a choice of either going to his fathers or his grandparnts...
Presently he is at his grandparents until we can get hold of his father not that I expect any of us will get much help from him....
I rang him when our son went missing and the response I got was "what do you want me to do about it" and then hung up on me.....
My son hates me with a passion at the moment and he now wants to divorce me....lol
What it boils down too is he wants to give up school but the law states you can`t leave school before the age of 17 unless you have a job.....
He says he wants to work but is too lazy to get out there and look for a job...
Every job he has applied for has either been myself or my daughters doing ...
So now he is on his own....He doesn`t want to live with me anymore which has been obvious for some time....
Then yesterday after all of this went on I thought I would get stuck into clening up the kitchen which entailed dishes...
Big mistake...
A broken mug took revenge on me , damn thing...
3 stitches between the webbing of the thumb and first finger....
Topped my day off perfectly..
Thre is talk I may have to see a micro surgeon as I have tingling running down the side of my thumb which means I could have damaged the nerve....
Well I don`t half do things....lol
I`m hoping that it will be ok and come good....
One good thing to come out of this is NO DISHES for a week....
Isn`t that a shame????...lol

5 comments:

  1. I love your post headers. You always have topical interesting images. My goodness you poor old thing. Cut hand and wayward son. I found 16 was the hardest time even with girls. I hope your hand heals without extra problems and hope son comes good (that might take longer than the hand to fix.)
    Giving him choices and making him realise the consequences, is the only way. Go to school or go to work.He must make the choice otherwise he is breaking the law and he'll have to deal with police or truent officers and you can't protect him. He has to makes the decision and he wears the consequences. He has to take resposibility for his own actions and can't keep blaming you. Let him know this (Calmly if possible)

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  2. Oh Mandy, You are in the wars :) Sorry to hear about your cut hand, you are a worry at times - women - a burn now this :) Your eldest son, one day he may look back and know, that what you have done for him in the past and present was for his own good, as you love him. Let's hope he doesn't go off the rails too far. I am sure you know that their is a special bond between a mother and her son/s.

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  3. i agree. some teenagers take more work than others. hang in there Mandy. hope your hand heals ok. Fran

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  4. So you can't wash the dishes for a week thats great unless you find a weeks worth of dishes waiting for you when your hand heals........lol

    This is the problem you can't make him go to school which is why when I see things on telly about holding parents responsible when their child doesn't go to school that I get angry and annoyed as it is a lot easier said then done. All you can do is lay it out for him and hope he does the right thing and if he doesn't then you can all only hope he learns from his mistakes and one days says sorry mum for being so difficult as a teenager.

    Hope the hand does heal ok and there is no nerve damage.....my sister has no feeling in a couple of fingers, she cut her hand when washing up glasses when she work at pizza hut year ago.

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  5. Hey Mandy, I think you're doing great, my brother was like that,our Dad died when we were little he ran riot in his teens, I know his Father is alive but you're doing the lions share that's for damn sure. I think you're a terrific Mum because you never stop hoping and striving for your kids...Wether they make it easy on you or not!
    As for your poor thumb I did the same bloody (no pun intended!) I never got it fixed so half my thumb feels dead and I get this weird electric shock type pain when its touched in a certain way...so yeah get yours fixed!!! take care honey! Shazam x
    p.s...no washing up?...awww what a pity huh? ahahahah!!!

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