Sunday, November 30, 2008

trying to cope with a defiant child

I`ve been given a book to read by my son`s councellor....

Your defiant child 8 steps to better behavior...

Am i ever so hoping that it will help me to cope with what has been a terrible few days...

It comes in waves and when he is having a bad day everyone in the family suffers...

I`ve been told it`s like having a two year old but with more force....

And it`s true...

If he can`t have his own way the so called tantrums kick in ...

The swearing and constant refusual to do anything that is asked of him...

A daily struggle within the family home...

Apparently this is more prolific in boys...

And I just happened to be one of the lucky ones who inherited this problem...

It`s tiring having to deal with my son when it`s constantly a battle...

And then you have the self doubts but this book so far has assured me i`m not alone and there is a way to fix it...

Boy I hope so!!!!!

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11 comments:

  1. yevishaNovember 30, 2008 at 7:00 PM

    sorry to hear this. i hope things improve soon. maybe the book will help. it's a rotten age coz their hormones are kicking around big time too which doesn't help. keep your chin up :)

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  2. mandyNovember 30, 2008 at 9:07 PM

    They sure are Fran....He is developing early but still the mind of a young boy...Frustrating for him as well as me....

    I keep telling myself it will get better, just wish it was sooner rather than later...:)

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  3. diane bNovember 30, 2008 at 10:19 PM

    Hang in there girl. Is this the younger one? Maybe he's tired from the end of year stress at school. When he relaxes more in the holidays and gets used to holiday routine maybe he'll calm down. Be consistant like you have in the past. Be fair but firm and hopefully things will improve. The book sounds like it should be helpful.

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  4. mandyDecember 1, 2008 at 8:01 AM

    Diane yes it is the younger one...11 going on 21....lol

    He just doesn`t like hearing that word *NO*.....
    We will get there though, it`s just going to take a bit longer than I thought.....

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  5. ArtoholicDecember 2, 2008 at 7:59 PM

    Mandy, it can be tough having to say "No" all the time -you'll stick it out- I know you've got what it takes.

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  6. CherylDecember 2, 2008 at 9:29 PM

    Mandy you have had lots of experience. Know you will be successful in getting him into your way of thinking..LOL

    I do feel for you. What about the book 'Tough Love.' Have you heard anything about that programme?

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  7. mandyDecember 2, 2008 at 10:03 PM

    Cindy some days I sound like a cracked record...lol

    It can get tiring having the same argument with an 11 year old....

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  8. mandyDecember 2, 2008 at 10:04 PM

    Cheryl lovely to see you over here....
    No I haven`t heard of this book but i`ll be looking it up....Any help greatly appreciated at this stage....

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  9. Lizzie's InsomniaDecember 3, 2008 at 8:59 PM

    Hi Mandy,

    Hope he improves quickly as you are certainly doing the hard yards..
    Kind regards,
    lizzie

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  10. mandyDecember 3, 2008 at 9:33 PM

    Thanks Lizzie....I`m hoping the holiday away will do him some good...Just the three of us without any competition for him....

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  11. ArtoholicDecember 4, 2008 at 7:46 PM

    Hope you're still hanging in there girl!

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