Who was the wise guy who invented STRESS???
I`m ready to scream, punch, kick and even spit at my middle child...
He is pushing all of my buttons at the moment (the wrong one`s I might add) and it aint going to be pretty....
There`s just no respect...Not just with me but also with the teachers at school....
I`m at my tether with him...He is only 14 but wants to do the adult things in life, yet has the mentality of a 10 year old....Well maybe it`s exaggerating a little but that`s how it seems at times....
He is seeing a counsellor at school and i`m in the process of getting some outside help but in the meantime he is making my life very stressful...
to be honest and i`ve never felt this way before, but I could really throttle him...I know that`s not the answer....I have spoken to him and had real heart to hearts with him but no sooner we`ve spoken it`s gone in one ear and out the other....
He just doesn`t care about other people`s feelings....
I hate to say it but he is just like his father....
Out for himself and stuff anyone who gets in his way....
I feel dreadful for thinking this way but I suppose the frustration of it all has finally got to me....
I`ve tried everything with him and been so patient thinking that he will get better, change his ways but i`m starting to have my doubts....
It`s now to the stage where i`m throwing my arms up in the air with him....
I`m just living with the hope now that he will soon snap out of this hormonal attitude towards everyone....
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Well that feels better....Nothing like having a good whinge to get it off your chest....
hahahahahaha
Well if you don`t laugh you`ll cry and i`m refusing to do that....
hiya mandy, oh you poor thing. been there done that with my daughter. it's not for nothing i have grey hair (beautifully dyed red btw) and wrinkles. i commiserate totally. if you hang in there it does get better but you need to look after yourself in the process. he'll be fine it's you that has to take care. that said, thanks for the comments. teacher is female. you have done really well with your weight loss. well done you. yes, go out and buy some new clothes. you deserve it. :) Fran
ReplyDeletebtw keep your eye open for an email i sent you. it's called grandpa's fish. omg
ReplyDeleteHi Mandy,
ReplyDeleteI found my boys at fourteen at their worst and soooo frustrating. Hang in there with the raging hormonal ups and downs of a teenage boy....and as yevisha said look after yourself and do not feel responsible for all the problems your son presents....he has to be responsible for himself a little at this age. The majority of us have been through the teenage years with our children and all we can do is the best we can and if that is not good enough do not beat yourself up.
Kind regards, Elizabeth
Thanks for that guys....I was beginning to think I had gone wrong somewhere along the line....
ReplyDeleteHello Mandy,
ReplyDeleteYou are a good mum, for you do so care about your children.
Children certainly are trying at times but we mother's always get by.
Take care,
Margaret
HI Mandy..He will grow out of it eventually..( we have to say this or go crazy!!LOL)
ReplyDeleteMy 14 yr old is giving me lots of lip but luckily is behaving at school. Is not home much at all but then again is with other nice families so all good..gives us a breather..
look after yourself..hope things improve soon
Hi Mandy,
ReplyDeleteTeen age years are pretty stressful for not only the parents but also for the kids themselves. They quite often are reacting to stuff that they really don't understand. Here's a US site that talks about teenage years that may throw some light on the subject somewhere amongst the stuff ...... http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/publications/allpubs/SVP-0013/SVP-0013ch6.asp
Otherwise do a Google search on 'teen age years' + 'troubled years'.
Cheers
Rudy
Like the others have been there also with daughter number two my rebel child between the years of 14 and 17 she was bad very bad and I had many sleepless nights worrying about her. I couldn't talk to her without a ending up in a fight she was the worse because when she was 15 she started wanting to go out at night to just hang with friends and when I said no there was always a seen. As strange as this sounds her father and I use to hope she would get pregnant as we knew it would settle her down didn't happen at the time. Her life turned around when she met Jono.
ReplyDeleteAlso had many many fights with eldest daughter and would like to say she has changed but not really we still have some really bad fights and yes she is moving home again and I am worried about how that is going to turn out.
The only daughter I don't fight with much is my youngest.
All you can do is your best and hope it is good enough and that he will come through the teenage years a young man you can be proud of. It all worked out for me I am proud of all my girls.